About
Why I Object
My name is Melanie. I’m a full-time working mom, marketing professional, and a relentless challenger of irrational rules. I didn't choose to be an activist, but when logic and fairness were ignored repeatedly by a family court system stuck in the past, activism chose me.
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I spoke up clearly, rationally, and repeatedly. I provided facts, evidence, and common-sense arguments. But the court wasn’t interested in logic, fairness, or even reality. And my ex wasn’t interested in playing fair. And lawyers...the ones paid to help...they told me quietly to “play along”, “take a lesser paying job” and accept injustice because “it’s just how the system works.”
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But that’s exactly why the system doesn’t work. Rational objections shouldn’t be radical. And speaking truth shouldn’t be seen as disruptive.
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So now I’m making disruption the point.
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This isn’t just about being heard it’s about forcing change, rewriting outdated laws, and creating accountability in places where complacency has become dangerous. It’s a call to action. I’m raising my voice for the parents who are overworked, overlooked, and outraged. For the moms who are paying for two households while someone benefits from loopholes and lies. For the Dads, suffering while their ex lives large on family money. For the kids caught in the middle of a broken equation.
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If you’ve ever felt dismissed despite having truth on your side, If you’ve ever looked at your support order and thought, WTF. You’re not alone anymore because I'll Object for you.
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The Full Story
I went into my marriage full of hope, believing in the dream of building a life together, raising a family, and growing through the inevitable ups and downs. But almost immediately, I was met with something I didn’t recognize: a Jekyll-and-Hyde transformation that turned love into control, isolation, and psychological warfare. What began as subtle shifts confusing conversations, passive put-downs, rewriting of events, soon spiraled into a full-blown campaign of gaslighting, devaluation, and emotional manipulation. I spent years trying to hold it all together, hoping things would change, telling myself it wasn’t that bad.
But it was.​
When I finally left, I believed freedom would bring peace. What I hadn’t yet learned was that abuse doesn’t always end when the relationship does. It just changes form becoming more covert, more insidious, especially in systems ill-equipped to recognize it.​ My ex, a well-credentialed family counselor and high-conflict divorce expert, used his professional standing as a shield hiding behind calm language and courtroom polish while continuing the pattern of abuse through custody battles, financial coercion, and narrative control. He knew how to weaponize perception. He knew how to play the system. What I didn’t expect was how few protections existed for someone like me: a working single mother trying to rebuild a life, care for my children, and shield them from harm while being financially drained and emotionally destabilized by the very person who claimed to want what’s “best for the kids.”​
That’s what led me here. That’s why I created I Object.​
This isn’t just a project, it’s a lifeline. It’s a rallying cry for every person who’s felt voiceless in the face of injustice, for every parent who’s had to document abuse while staying calm for the sake of the children, for every survivor who is still surviving. Over the past five years, I’ve worked to document, organize, and articulate this experience. I've built timelines, crafted legal briefs, analyzed communications, written public blog posts, and tried to make sense of a system that so often fails the very people it was designed to protect. Every post, every hashtag, every truth I speak is rooted in real-time experience, mine and many thousands of others like me.​ This platform is about reforming outdated systems and exposing the hidden abuse that thrives in silence. What started as a platform for survivor storytelling and family court reform has now become a cultural counterbalance to systems of unchecked power.
I Object is evolving into a movement and methodology dedicated to designing systems that can’t be weaponized by charm, credentials, or calm manipulation.​
This is where personal truth meets systemic change.
Where we don’t just Object
we redesign the system so the objection is no longer necessary.​
Melanie
Please Join Me.
You don’t need to be an expert to make an impact. You just need to care. Help us fight back against systems that punish the responsible and protect the powerful. Let’s build something better together.
